It has been said that when there is a conflict between reason and feeling, human beings will always side with feeling. According to Gary Young, Founder of Young Living Essential Oils, “99% of life’s decisions are made from feelings.” Therefore, if you want your life to be guided by good decisions that lead to health, happiness, and fulfilment, you need to be aware of and in control of your present feelings and to learn how to release the repressed emotions of the past.
Most of our feelings today are not responses to current events. They originate from the programming in cellular memory that was imprinted by the emotional experiences of our past. If we are unable to understand, process, and resolve emotions our brain stores them away for us to deal with later. It’s much like when we receive an electricity bill in the mail. If you put it away to pay later and forget about it, you will keep getting reminders until you either pay it or the electricity is cut off. The body also has ways in which emotions can resurface and show up until we do understand, process and resolve them.
Two years ago I witnessed and then was the first person on the scene of a very nasty car accident near Port Macquarie. I went to the man in the car which had veered to the wrong side of the road and had a head-on with a 4wd. His leg had been amputated in the crash and despite my best efforts to stem the bleeding and then give him CPR he sadly passed away at the scene. I had to give a statement to Police before hurrying home to pack and fly to America. I really didn’t have time to understand, process or even think about what had happened as I was going to be late for my flight.
I had a great time in America but on my last day there a car I was travelling in was nearly involved in an accident. Even though we were fine I was hysterical. I couldn’t stop crying and no one could really understand what was happening to me. I was with a group of oily friends who were all putting oils on me. It took ages for me to calm down and eventually tell them about the man who had died in the car accident a week earlier, back in Australia. This was the universes way of making me revisit this event and process the emotions I had stored away. For me, it was only a week later but for many people, it can be months and even years later that their emotions come to the surface to be dealt with again.
These forgotten traumatic experiences function as live programming in our bodies, affecting every aspect of our lives and particularly in the area of how we make decisions. When our thoughts are limited by fears, lack of self-worth, and not feeling good enough for more or better, we make decisions that limit our success.
By focusing on fixing your feelings, you can fix most aspects of your life–physical, mental, and spiritual. Essential oils are perfect vehicles to help you in this task because their molecules pass directly to the emotional brain and can bring us into contact with the issues we have long forgotten and enable us to deal with them and resolve them once and for all. When we clear our emotional baggage, we clear the way to manifest our true and highest potential.
So which essential oils can I use to help resolve negative emotions?
1. Occasional Anger
Being angry is truly a tense place to be. Occasional anger is stored in our liver. It is a deep emotion and is usually directed at someone else. The other side of anger is laughter. Apply the essential oil blend Purification to the liver point and say the words “My direction is clear”. It puts the onus on YOU vs. the other person. You can let go of the anger when the focus is put back on you and what you want to do! You can even do this with children during a tantrum – I can personally attest to the fact that it does wonders!
2. Fear of Abandonment
This is great for small children. Not just children who have been through a trauma per se…their perception is a reality even if nothing traumatic from your perspective has occurred. Maybe they view you going out for dinner for a date night is abandonment! The essential oil for this is Lavender. Apply to the belly across the navel area while saying “I embrace all of life’s experiences”. This puts the focus on feeling at-one or being at peace with yourself.
3. Occasional Anxiety
At the root of occasional (not clinical) anxiety is lack of confidence and not sure how to approach a situation. Apply the essential oil blend Joy to the chest (across the diaphragm area) and say “Peace…Be Still”. This allows you to be balancing, calm and centred….and most of all confident and happy.
Feel as if you deserve more than you are getting? That the world is your oyster…except it isn’t and this is totally unfair? To help you with having realistic feelings of what you deserve for what you have accomplished, apply Lemon to the thyroid area on your throat (be careful in the summer with exposure to the sun as Lemon can make you more photosensitive) while saying “I can do it”. This allows you to be realistic about what you can achieve when you put in the work!
Feel like saying that all the time?! If you are prone to wanting to flip everyone off and have a hard time with this then apply Frankincense to the diaphragm while saying “I stand in my power”. This will create a more positive feeling of detachment. ‘Frank you’ for this one!
Feel like you can’t achieve? Worried about failing all the time? Apply the essential oil Peppermint to the thymus area at your collarbone to help you see your life unfold in a positive way while saying “I accept growth”. Check out this testimonial of using Peppermint for failure here:
7. Occasional Grief
Occasional grief is an unavoidable emotion for anyone – we will all grieve one day – but sitting in grief for an extended period of time is not good for the body or soul. The opposite of Grief is Happiness. Apply Joy over the bridge of your nose and repeat, “Change brings growth.”
8. Not Getting Enough
Do you ever feel as if you aren’t getting enough of what you need? I think as a mother I have felt this way before. When I am feeling this way now, I apply the essential oil Copaiba right in between my breasts on my chest while saying “I am satisfied” to help me feel content and at peace with my life.
9. Occasional Resentment
How many times have we all felt resentful toward someone? This bitterness can be a lot to carry. It is like what they say – when you hold on to resentment it is like eating poison and wishing the other person would die! This makes no sense right? To rid yourself of resentment, apply the essential oil Lemongrass under your right breast on your rib (the hepatic duct) while saying “I am wanted, lovable, and whole” to help you embrace the situation and yourself.
10. Occasional Feeling Worthless
Occasional feelings of unworthiness are particularly toxic. If you feel worthless this is definitely something to work on. Because that feeling is just a state of mind and you are seen as worthy in the eyes of others! To feel that yourself apply Frankincense to your cheeks while saying “I am valuable” to help you feel that approval you need.
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